Parenting Twins as an Introvert

But as an introvert myself, I must admit, that having twins suits my personality type just right!

I’m naturally introverted.  This does not mean that I am shy or that I don’t like people, as is often assumed.   It simply means that I need time alone to recharge.  As a career counselor who is certified in the MBTI personality inventory, I have helped hundreds of people discover and understand their personality types.  But it wasn’t until I had twins that I started to think about how your personality can impact parenting. Certainly, no one personality type is perfect for parenting multiples, but here are 3 times when having twins is an introvert’s dream.

When you don’t want to go somewhere
Every introvert knows the drill.  You are invited to a party, or a playdate, or a work event.  And you have to come up with an excuse, as to why you can’t go.  But guess what... once you have twins, you don’t have to come up with an excuse.  Now you have a reason. Taking your two babies out of your house during that first year is so much work that everyone will give you a pass.  

When you don’t want to make small talk
Chit-chat is often disliked by introverts, who prefer more meaningful conversation. When you are out with twins, you don’t have time to talk to anyone. Someone always needs your attention. You may start many conversations, but will inevitability be pulled away by a toddler needing a drink, or help finding their toy.  This phenomenon hits epic proportions at the park when upon exiting the confines of their car seats, your multiples will scatter in different directions leading you to spend all of your time scanning the corners of the playground to ensure everyone’s safety.

When you just need to be alone for a few minutes
In most cases, more children mean less alone time for their parents.  Unless you are talking about twins. One of the many cool things about parenting twins is their ability to entertain each other. Twins are often satisfied playing with each other, which can give you a pass every once in a while when you just need a moment alone to decompress.

Personality theory says that no one personality type is better than any other. And I whole-heartedly agree. But as an introvert myself, I must admit, that having twins suits my personality type just right!